The holiday season is often a time of joy and togetherness, but for those experiencing grief, it can feel like an especially heavy time. This year, I find myself navigating this season differently, as my father just passed away in October. Grieving during the holidays has brought its own unique challenges—moments of deep reflection, sadness, and love, all intertwined.
If you’re carrying the weight of loss this season, know that you’re not alone. Grief is a deeply personal journey, and while it may feel overwhelming, there are ways to support yourself and honor both your emotions and your loved one.
Here are some approaches I’ve found helpful that I’d like to share with you:
1. Honor Where You Are
Grief has no timeline, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel. It’s okay to experience waves of emotion—whether that’s sadness, anger, nostalgia, or even joy. Giving yourself permission to feel what comes up, without judgment, is one of the most compassionate things you can do for yourself.
2. Adjust Your Expectations
This year, I’ve had to let go of the expectation that I’ll feel the same about the holidays as I have in years past. I’m choosing to simplify and focus only on the things that bring me comfort. If certain traditions or events feel too difficult, it’s okay to step back. Listening to what feels right for you is key.
3. Create Meaningful New Rituals
Honoring your loved one can bring a sense of peace and connection. This could be as simple as lighting a candle for them, making a favorite recipe they loved, or setting aside time to reflect on your favorite memories. These small gestures can help you feel close to them, even in their physical absence.
4. Lean Into Support
Grief can feel isolating, especially when others are immersed in celebration. Don’t hesitate to reach out to those who can hold space for your feelings. Talking about your loved one or sharing memories can be a healing way to keep their spirit alive.
5. Turn to Healing Practices Like Reiki
As a Reiki practitioner and teacher, I’ve found Reiki to be an invaluable support in my own grief journey. Reiki works to balance your energy, soothe emotional overwhelm, and create a sense of peace amidst the turmoil of loss. It’s a gentle, non-invasive way to reconnect with yourself when life feels unsteady.
If you’re feeling called to explore Reiki as part of your grief support, I’ll be offering distance Reiki sessions starting in January. Distance Reiki is a powerful option, allowing you to experience the calming effects of Reiki from the comfort of your own home. Learn more about how distance Reiki works here.
6. Embrace Self-Care Without Guilt
Grief can be physically and emotionally draining, so it’s important to prioritize self-care. That might look like taking time for quiet reflection, engaging in gentle movement, or simply resting when you need it. Give yourself permission to care for yourself as you would a dear friend.
7. Allow Moments of Joy
One of the most challenging but healing lessons I’ve learned is that it’s okay to experience moments of joy, even while grieving. Laughter, connection, and happiness don’t erase the love you feel for your lost one—they honor it. These moments are a testament to the life and love you shared.
You Are Not Alone
Grieving during the holidays is a journey of its own, one that requires tenderness, patience, and self-compassion. Remember, it’s okay to feel everything you’re feeling and to honor your emotions in your own time and way.
As I walk this path myself, I want to extend my support to anyone navigating a similar journey. If you’re curious about how Reiki can help during this time, I’d love to hold space for you in the new year. My distance Reiki sessions are available starting in January to help you find balance and comfort as you move through your grief.
This holiday season, may you find moments of peace, reflection, and healing. You are not alone.
If you’d like to explore Reiki or have questions about how it can support you, feel free to reach out 💗